how do i love thee?

for the guys

she's your ideal life-partner. sweet, sexy, adorable and she talks with this syrupy voice that is to die for. you can just imagine spending the rest of your life with her. she's so loving, so giving, she'll be the ideal mother of your children. well, be very prepared, because she's going to turn into a shrew in the blink of an eye. don't blink!...............too late! that syrupy voice will turn shrill and mocking when she screams at the children to behave and finish their homework. that sexy body will be all loose and saggy from childbirth. forget about pampering that smooth hot body she had, she doesn't even have time to sit down and take a breather. her body will act as a nice substitute for sandpaper for that woodwork you're doing in the garage. yes, she's a perfect mother for your children....hell! she's starting to look like your mother too!! that sweetness will be tired, grumpy and cynical. that adorable wants to hold you tightly in between her hands...............and strangle you for not lifting a hand to help.


for the girls

that hunk that you dreamt about day after day finally asked you out for a date. he's attentive, generous and gentlemanly. you swoon and start planning your wedding. i've got news for you, girl. he's going to lose that thick crown of hair and carry a spare tyre around his tummy just incase the family car's tyre punctures. he'll still think he's god's gift to women....only doubly so because of the double in size now. he's still attentive.....it's just that his attention is not focused on you. he's charming the covers off the sofa on which he lounges everynight, putting his leg up on the coffee-table, not bothering to help with the chores. that understanding man is understanding the game scores after dinner night after night.... and he lavishes you generously with all the housework and bringing up the children.

will you still remember why you love her / him ?

do you love with a reason or with your heart?

when the reasons change, will your love change? when the reasons no longer exist, will your love die? or have you found new reasons to sustain your love? what if there is no new reason?

if you loved with your heart.....will your heart never change? will it remain loyal, through tides and time, when everything else around changes, including yourself and your partner?

what then?

author's note: when a woman writes about men, readers automatically assume she's talking about her husband. fyi, it's just a cynical observation.