when his family was here, and you hint to him that he has it good because he gets to 'smack his butt and leave for the office' whilst you are left to hold down the fort and keep them entertained, with nary a phone call during the day to enquire how you were surviving, he got offended.
whilst you were all tired from juggling work, motherhood and preparing all three meals of the day, catering to the young, the old and the in-between day in day out, he came back and lounged in front of the television, your resentment level hits the roof.
you told him about the tough day you had but he had left his brain in the office and his sympathy in the car; you were ready to freak out.
you run hectic trying to do everything, cover all the bases. he doesn't see. he can't understand that the most expensive handbag or the prettiest flowers don't mean much in the way of expressing appreciation.
sometimes, it doesn't have to be physical. it doesn't have to be material.
this time round, the story changed a little.
a little bit of this, a little bit of that........it made all the difference.
he gave a few suggestions, albeit lame it was, on what to cook for dinner after i've racked my brain for inspirations day after day, meal after meal. he extends an olive branch and tries to help whenever he could. he's wary i'll lose it any second now and aim the chopper at him. after work, he scurries into the kitchen, trying to make himself as useful as possible to defuse the tension.knowing that he is trying so hard, understanding that he wants to help....was all that is needed.
at the end of the day, he came home and gave me a relaxing back rub to ease the knots in the shoulders after a whole day of running between the kitchen and the work table.
a compliment of a meal well cooked, instead of burping, pushing away from the table and aiming towards the tv, brought out a smile.
he offered to bring them out for dinner once in a while, or buy some food home, to ease the burden of more cut fingers and burnt hands.
knowing that he appreciates it is all that i need.
sometimes the man does understand.
note from author: usually i write my post and leave it for your interpretation. i don't try to explain more than is in the post because i can't. however, i'm gettting slighty worried because people seem to be misinterpreting the message i'm trying to convey for this post...a problem that may trigger off world war 3. so, for this post, i'll add a little summary.
there are two parts to this post...the initial one which is like all married couples....and the latter part where he tries so hard. this post is an appreciation of his appreciation, for his trying so hard. please don't misinterpret it as a whine for more attention. he is already perfect...like me! ahem!
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LOL, take a break, have a Kit Kat.
Once in the while, let the man accidentally read this blog entry and he will be wiser.
And they lived happily ever after.
dear jonzz: hmmm...i think there's a problem with the way i wrote this post....what i meant to say is sometimes he does understand and he tries to do all sorts to make it better. it's an appreciation of his appreciaton. hehe. hmmm...better rewrite it a little to express myself clearer.
oh why why why do you write a day of my life on your blog. It's like we're twins on opposite sides of the planet with the same "companions".. and I use that term loosely. Someone described them (men) as "ghosts".. He's just a ghost.. comes home from work, nay a word or eye contact, goes to the video game or TV.. just a ghost in the house.
No man is a wiser after reading something so obvious to us; but not to him. He may be offended, or he'll explain it as "our" problem or our time of the month. or worst yet, he'll ignore it.. ignore you as if.. you don't exist.
dear annie: i'm having serious thought about taking this post off my blog. everybody seems to be misunderstanding it!!! help!! i'm going to get in deep trouble. there are two parts to the story.. the first part where it's like the rest...and the latter part..where he tries so hard. i'm really saying thank you to him for trying so hard.
should ask your husband to try harder! (at doing those things that pleases him and pisses you!) :P
ah...i dunwan to comment & then have you say i misinterpret the post so i diam diam saja ok?
I got it! I got it! *boast*
Give me a break. I've had one of those killer days, so lift me will ya? Please?
My Hubs and I same - got connection one. Even though sometimes he is blur like cloud, kayu like sampan and...and...slow..like....Zzzzz
i was going to say things arent looking good with mr.me until i read the summary.
Just one qtn for ME. Does hubby read your blog?
I read this post as you are praising him.
dear monty: marriage is never easy. it's an ongoing effort for both parties. seeing that you are usually chauvinistic, don't you think it'll be unfair to ask only one party to try harder? :-p
dear wuching: hahaha. ok.
dear big p: that bad a day, huh? i can try to lift you....but seeing that you call yourself BIG pumpkin and not just pumpkin, that may be a little difficult for me. hahahaha. sorry, just trying to make you laugh here. ehhh, your husband same like mine keh? hahaha.
dear zewt: meaning even you didn't get the contrast between the two parts of the story? sighhh! the irony is supposed to be in the first and last sentence..."men don't understand"...and "sometimes he does understand". the story slowly turned from one extreme to the other extreme. i was hoping someone would catch the way it was written.
dear pooh: sighhhh! finally. someone who read it like it was supposed to be. yes, he reads my blog (that busybody! haha) and this post IS meant to say thank you for his thank you's. was it really that confusing?
Ah ha ha, you know why there's misinterpretation?
Because you started off with a negative focus and elaborated on it first and finished it off with such a tiny positive note.
dear jonzz: halfway through (not at the end), there is a change in the focus. the tune changed...i don't understand...why don't people get it? starting from half of the post, each sentence praised what he did. there is such a strong contrast...and the play between the opposite of the first and last sentence tickled me. sighhh! ian would have got it! IANNNNNNNNNNN! whereeee are youuuuuu?
I did get what you mean by positive but it did not ring as strongly as the negatives.
Yeah! yeah! what Jonzz says..
Men, they never interpret anything right.. LOL
I read BETWEEN the lines..
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