life's lesson

my daughter is teaching me life's lesson.

recently many things seem to go wrong. there was a sunday when everything that could go wrong did. a string of stuffs just broke down, each demanding my full attention. all i could do was heave a deep sigh and get on with it. the external hard disk drive where i have kept all their photos and videos was corrupted. the vacuum cleaner broke down. the computer was infected with virus. the kitchen glass window was in danger of falling out. the son needed a haircut. the niece needed help with finishing her assignment. the daughter was very frustrated because she couldn't get her laptop to work properly. it seems like the whole world was clawing at me.

things don't always work the way we want to. i have been sighing everyday whenever i think of my hard disk drive and the lost photos. i have also been sighing whenever i think of the new food thermos that the son has lost. it pulls me down, these thoughts. when i have a little chance to slow down and sit, my thoughts turn back to things that depress me. it is such a bad habit.

i told my daughter this. i am going to break this obsession and going to focus only on the positive. that's the problem with us. everyday there is good and bad. in everything there is something positive and negative. yet we often just accept the positive, take it for granted and merely focus on the negative, and let it fill you like it was everything. the daughter says, write down one good thing that happened everyday. write it in a book or something. she has been doing that for years; one good thing on her handphone every single day. that way we choose to focus and remember the good thing. one year later you may not remember the moment when you had that hilarious chopstick fight with your child to see who picked up peas the fastest but she chose to write it down. when times get rough, she can always take out the list and remember all the good times. what a wise little girl i have. she is and should be my role model. to be positive. to be resilient. to grab life and to live it to the fullest.

ellen degeneres (yes, i'm watching too much of ellen these days) said that the more you appreciate life, the more it gives you things to be appreciative of. karma.

today's moment of appreciation is that i have the best and most wonderful daughter and may she live happy, healthy and long.



not everyday is good, but there is good in everyday

winnie the pooh