i cannot remember the last time i attended a wedding. there is a stage for everything in life and i believe most of my peers have long since stepped past the wedding age. however, it doesn't explain why i'm flipping to the obituary section of the dailies to check for familiar faces nowadays. i've always been a little too progressive in my thinking; i'm waiting for reality to catch up. anyway, the only weddings that i hear of nowadays are children of my parents' friends or colleagues, which makes it only mildly obligatory that i attend since i don't really know them.
i attended one such example over the weekend, invited by people that i honestly do not have much of a liking for simply because of their (or rather her) materialistic and rather fake character. so, sue me, i like sincere people. however, i don't hold my sometimes warped opinion against them and i attended with an open mind.
it was a beautiful wedding. perhaps what struck me the most was how happy the parents of the brides (not a typo, brides with a 's') looked; genuine elation and pride that glowed in their faces. they basked in the aura of the evening and i felt truly happy for them. perhaps weddings are a way of repaying parents for all the sacrifices they have made in bringing us up. it is their evening.
for a little while, when the customary speech was underway, i was transported to a wedding i attended a very, very long time ago. a wedding where my eyes blurred with tears whilst i watched her deliver a touching speech and witnessed her steps down the marital path. it was perhaps the only wedding ever to strike the chord in me. for ms amnesic here, the recollection in itself is an outstanding feat.
everywhere that i turn, everywhere that i go, things remind me of her. for a little while, i saw whilst she talked, walked and laugh again.
16 comments:
brideS?.... catch no ball
would you be prepared to go for a virtual one if I would to send u an invitation? ;) mimimum RM800 angpow hor.. pay to my paypal account.
dear naughty monty: double wedding lah. one dinner, two couples. *rolls eyes*
u getting married ah? sureeeee i come...virtually. if virtual, must be cheaper lah. no abalone, no sharkfins, rental of ballroom also no need, how to justify your entrance fee of $800?!
hmmmm chim...
Wedding as a way to repay parents? That is a very outdated view.
"If one rouses his unvirtuous parents, establishes them in morality; rouses his stingy parents, establishes them in generosity; rouses his foolish parents, establishes them in wisdom: to this extend one pays and repays one's parents."
dear ff: where got chim? very shallow only wat...can see the bottom also. no lah, stick yr feet in and see.....
dear khengsiong: *gasp* i think i'm being called outdated! without visiting yr blog 1st, i'll hazard a guess that u hv not stepped through the marital threshold yrself yet. when u live thru it, u'll understand. the wedding dinner is not for the bride, who is having the headache of her life, going crazy with all the wardrobe change, trying to look smashing and wondering if it's still the correct decision. it's not for the groom who is trying to be sober and keep track of names of guests he has never even met. who else is it for then? the hotel? the guests? in most cases, the bride and groom don't know 90% of the attendees personally. try convince me agn that it's not for the parents. :-p i respect yr buddhist guidance but repayment to the love of parents are not limited exclusively to those u mentioned. we repay in different ways that we can, in ways that we only know how.
this poor khengsiong. came in at the wrong time when ME is having PMS! :P
dear monty: kakakaka. i was just thinking that. u really know me, monty. i'm feeling so frus these days and poor khengsiong came around to kena some more. first it was zewt who kena an 'eloquent' reply when he called me typical 'a' chinese. now, another presumptious male specie who call me outdated. i'm sorry lah, ppl. i can't find the sweet and agreeable 'me'. i think she has been hunted, tied down and hidden under some crevice somewhere. for the moment, u're stuck with this wise-ass but ppl shouldn't label before they get to know someone, don cha think?
I have different thought when I see the bride and groom on stage.
unlike u who goes all dreamy and emotional, i think of my first night and ponders if the new couple on stage will have it as good as I did.
*reading monty's first comment*... well, ME, if Monty has a virtual wedding, then we'll have to pay virtual cash. Quick, take out the monopoly set.
Wa ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha
weddings are so pretty, aren't they? the last one I attended was my brother's. funny how my parents were so totally cool and easy about the preparations compared to what some of my other friends had gone through with theirs.
geez that must be a really special someone... what happened to "her"?
Yes, ME, pray tell... what's the enigma surrounding HER?
you hoping for a re-run? :P....
wedding is always nice, once in a lifetime thing... ppl will tend to put all their hearts and soul to it.
dear ah pek: really har? yr first night very good ah? how many times u did it leh? one strike 'kow tim', nine months later had 1st daughter ah? spill the beans, old man.*grins*
dear jonzz: nooooooo. monopoly is not virtual money. can touch mah. quick, logon to virtual monopoly and get some virtual cash. excuse, i must see some virtual banker for some virtual o/d.
dear may: the best weddings are your siblings. u don't get the jitters yet you get to dress up and have fun. i think, anyway. my parents stayed out of the whole deal too and i ended up doing all myself. still, i didn't know 90% of the ppl attending.
dear serene: she is really special. irreplaceable. her story lies somewhere in my old posts.
dear bernard: enigma? none, but the fact that i miss her terribly. she and i go a long way back. perhaps u've joined this blog a little too late to read about her.
dear zewt: pleaseeeeeee
....i get shivers just thinking of how i did it then. so 'low thou', i can just die.
yes, but funny how the 'once in a lifetime' doesn't seem to last forever nowadays.
indeed... have you not heard? the main cause for divorce.... is marriage.
dear zewt: gasp! that's it! that's the reason millions of researchers have been trying to pinpoint; what causes divorce? u r ingenious, zewt. i'll inform the press, u call the researchers. we'll announce yr sharp analysis to the world. marriages are deadly; it leads to divorces. u deserve a medal for yr acute observation. *clapping*
*grins*
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