Thursday, February 17, 2011

everything about bringing up a kid is hard. from sleepless nights and endless feedings to teenage rebellion and secrets. it's hard to adjust. one day they are totally devoted to you, needing you every step of the way, making life a little claustrophobic whilst you look at it pass you by through window bars. the next day, in the blink of an eye, they don't need you anymore, finding you a little in the way even, keeping secrets and private jokes from you. when did the best friend become the enemy?

there should have been little signs to prepare you, very much like the breadcrumbs that hansel dropped on his way into the woods. there should have been formal notifications: mum, i'm not going to be needing you in 2 months from now......encounting, 1 month and 29 days. as i've always lamented, there should be a manual on life. i wish i had been more diligent in keeping records and i've started even earlier for i hope when she is all grown up, this can be her manual of life. i don't know what life holds in store for me next, what rollercoaster of emotions. i'm not prepared, i will never be. who is ever prepared for life? i can only take one step at a time, one day at a time.

2 comments:

doc said...

you are your own manual on life. if you like the way your parents brought you up & you turned out pretty good, by all means, repeat.

if you don't, ah...that's where you improvise - keep the good part & modify or discard the not-so-good.

fortunately, this Manual on Life comes in grey print, which means you are given leeway to accomodate changing circumstances.

look for the crumb trail your parents left you & all the best!

me said...

life is never that simple, doc. what we are now is a complicated mixture of our upbringing. not something straightforward, like we did not get to do this...thus this characteristic happened.or we were made to do that, thus we are like that. a+b does not necessarily equal to c. just because we like a certain characteristic, u can't necessarily replicate the circumstance to re-create it in another being. u can try, u can persevere, but in the end, you can only hope :-)

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